Friends Are The Family We Choose

Friends are the family we choose 

Friends are the families we choose" is a sentiment that involves deeply with many people, highlighting the intense impact of friendships on our lives. In contrast to the family, where connections are bound by blood, friendships are built through shared experiences, mutual understanding, and emotional bonds. Sometimes, the same support, love, and care one expects from a family can be achieved through these relationships. In an increasingly interconnected yet isolating world, the role of friends as proxy families has become more essential, underscoring the idea that the essence of family extends beyond genetic ties. 

It comes down to reflecting on your own thoughts about what makes a family. Different people have different perspectives on characteristics of family. Families provide emotional, financial, and social support to one another. And when our friends similarly provide us social and emotional support, we consider them our family.The structure and definition of a family can vary widely across cultures and societies, encompassing nuclear families, extended families, and other arrangements such as ,single parent families, childless couples, and families formed through close friendships. We feel secure and safe while sharing our thoughts and feelings to our family members because of the comfort zone they have created for us. But again, we are social beings who meet different people everyday in every step of our life.But we cannot share our feelings to some random strangers because we feel insecured as we are not comfortable with them. But among these strangers, we find some people very exciting. As a result, we start to share our day to day life with some these strangers and ask for their suggestions on any topic as well. We feel relieved after sharing our stress with these people because we start believing them and we develop a comfortable bond. They make us feel comfortable and we start to express our thoughts and feelings to them. As a result, a mutual trust and understanding grows and we become friends. After some time, when we start to know each other more, a close bond is formed among us and we all become friends. Thus, these strangers turns out to be the closest friends in our life at a point.

Sometimes, we are unable to express certain thoughts and insecurities to our families. Then we reach out to our friends. And this friendship family which is formed through close friendships motivates us to overcome our insecurities and lackings so that we could be the best version of ourselves.

 "Parents are our best friends"- this is a very well-known statement. Though there is no disagreement to the following statement but yet best friends can be some people apart from blood relation who were completely strangers once upon a time and they often turns out to be our best friends, even more than a family. There is a famous sayings in English, "A life without friends is a sky without stars". It means our life is incomplete without friends. Moreover, friends pull us out of isolation and boredom. Again, friendship can be classified into some categories. The more we grow, the more we become self centered. But the friends we meet in the school and college life,they carries their best personality as friends . For instance, school level friendships define how pure and strong bond friends can have. And these friends stay for the rest of our life. Then comes our university life where we find beautiful people again. We make friends in almost every aspect of our life but the friends in school, college and university gift us the best memories which we cherish for the rest of our life.

Friends and surrounding teaches us etiquette and manners as well as mutual respect. It also develops a sense of faith which is a key aspect in our life. Good friends gives a better environment where we can lead a healthy and superb life. They enhances our communication skills and overcome our insecurities.Thus, making our life more beautiful than ever. That's why choosing good people as your friends is a significant factor. Because bad influence can not only destroy your mental peace but also hamper your day to day activities and updates your insecurities as well. One's whole surrounding becomes toxic and he or she might catch anxiety and depression. As a result, we again find ourselves isolated in a corner if our friends are not trustworthy. 

So, choosing friends is a very important factor. Because friends can make your life enjoyable to drag your life towards destruction as one friend is enough to take you into the right track whereas one friend is enough to derail you.

P.M. Mushfiqur Shium

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